A wayfarer is, basically, a traveler or “one who wanders”.

Many times when people come to see me, they are more clear on what they don’t want in their lives than on what they do want. They want to get rid of the anxiety, the depression, the panic, or the intrusive thoughts and images.

Envisioning a future without the weight of one’s burdens is important but surprisingly difficult, and may even feel impossible. I believe this is because when we introduce the concepts of want and need, it feels deeply threatening. Many people have told me that to want something—anything!—is a set up for disappointment, hurt, and even danger. Need is an even more basic, more vulnerable, and often more frightening concept to consider.

I understand these as important truths. I also know that being able to imagine a future life that feels fulfilling, secure, and peaceful (and absent depression or anxiety) is an important step in creating a road map for the therapy journey. How will we know which direction to go, if we aren’t sure what we are seeking?

Still, my experience as a therapist has taught me to be open and flexible. Unconscious material appears without warning, and may take myself and my clients way off the ‘beaten path’ if it is given a voice. In the best of all worlds this leads to moments of expansion and growth.

The name “wayfarer” in the context of therapy with me is intended to convey the idea of being on a journey. It is not my journey—it is that of the client—but I am there to help, support, encourage, and guide.